You don’t HAVE to forgive people that have harmed you ever like that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard in my entire fucking life.
If YOU feel like you need to forgive somebody because that’s what you need to heal and move on from whatever they did, then go ahead and do it. But don’t you ever sit here and tell people that they must automatically forgive folks so they can be the bigger person.
Fuck. That. Shit.
I say it would be nearly impossible to forgive someone right away but by not forgiving them at all you are giving them power over you. You are allowing them to make you feel sad/angry when you remember what they did. When you see them you feel the need to be rude/ignore them. Also, forgiving someone does not mean you want them back into your life, you are just not letting them control you.
Actually no. Fuck this comment and you too, because not forgiving someone =/= being angry or rude. and honestly if the someone you’re not forgiving is your abuser then honestly anger and rudeness is more than justifiable. byyye.
i had a (required) scripture class at byu and the professor was talking about forgiveness and how god required us to forgive everyone, and he said he once had a student who raised her hand and said, “my father raped me. am i supposed to forgive him?” and he told her “yes”. and then he retold that story in another class and another girl was like, “you expect me to forgive MY dad, who sexually abused me too?” and he was like “yes.”
and he was telling this story like he was so proud of himself for standing up to sexual assault victims